6 Psychological Reasons You Keep Attracting The Wrong People

You Mistake Anxiety For Chemistry

The butterflies, the stomach flips, the addictive highs and lows—that’s not love. That’s your nervous system responding to inconsistency. Intermittent reinforcement (hot and cold behaviour) is one of the most addictive patterns in human psychology. A partner who’s unpredictable keeps you hooked, trying to “earn” their affection. A healthy partner doesn’t create emotional chaos. Healthy relationships don’t give you butterflies—they give you peace.

How to break it: Next time you feel that rush, ask yourself: “Is this excitement or anxiety?” If it’s the latter, run. Peace should never feel boring.